How to learn to love your writing

You’re struggling to love your writing? Don’t worry, you are not the only one.

I have met so many people, who told me that they love writing. But at the same time they mentioned that it’s their little secret and nobody had ever read any of their works. Sometimes it feels, as if everybody was a secret writer, just too shy to show the world. That same feeling of doubt, whether my writing is good enough, hast paralyzed me for many years. Until I started to publish my stories on my blog and for the first time, I got feedback. It turned out positive (but don’t worry, I got criticized soon after). And guess what, it really made me want to write more. It felt like freeing my creative spirit, to share my work with other people. Of course, they all saw different things (mostly themselves) in my little stories, but that is how writing works.

So, if you are a writer, who hasn’t shared any texts yet, I strongly encourage you to share them. I know, it is scary and it will continue being scary. Every time I read one of my stories in front of an audience I was definitely nervous. But that is not going to stop me from sharing what I have to say.

I want to share with you some ways to make this first big step of sharing a bit easier.

Show your work to an anonymous audience instead of your partner, family …

Why? Because the criticism from your loved ones would hit you much harder and might really discourage you or even cause a fight. If you post your writing in a forum for writers or on your own blog, you will likely get encouraging feedback. Or helpful criticism which helps you to grow as a writer. Anyway, the words of a stranger will sound to you more honest than the ones of close ones, as they might be biased to lie. In case you get criticism, you will not feel so hurt, but recover and learn from it.


Edit your writing several times, before you show it to anyone

If you have just finished a piece of writing, it is not ready to be shown to anyone. Instead, take it out every other day and read it loud to yourself. Change everything that sounds odd or out of the language flow. You can also add new ideas, which will give the story more depth or make it more interesting. After working on the text for at least a week, you will feel much more confident about it. Because you’ve already analyzed it’s strengths and possible weaknesses and you have worked on it.


Find a group of writers

Finding a group of people who you can share your work with, will inspire and encourage you immensely. Believe me, only after I entered a group, I started writing almost every day and consistently improving my works. The feedback of other writer will help you to get better at writing. At the same time you will feel less nervous to share your stories, because the other writers are sharing theirs with you.

I hope, I was able to convince you that your work belongs out there. Stories that come to us, are gifts and the only unfold all of their potential, if we share them. So, I wish you the courage to take the first step. Afterwards it will get easier and you will learn to love your writing.

  1. Britta

    Januar 18 18:57

    Finding a group of writers has helped me a lot! I have written years and years and just got a few words / feedback from my family. So i was used to be a secret writer. It all changed when i realized i am not alone, there are others who understand me and have the same problems with writing. I agree, going public is the best way to improve your writing. Tell the world who you are and allow your characters to live their life in the mind of a reader. They may not be perfect in the beginning, but just on your own you will repeat mistakes and others may be able to help. So in the end you may be the writer you have dreamed of.

    • Effi Lind

      Januar 29 21:26

      Thank you for sharing your story with me, Britta. I saw that you have a blog about a writer’s group and followed it on Facebook. I am looking forward to trying out some of the writing exercises you posted.

  2. raynotbradbury

    Januar 29 19:17

    What is it for blog-platform? Looks like a WordPress, but I dont see usual follow button and where’s a reblog at the end of the post then?
    Enjoyed the post! Well done 🙂

    • Effi Lind

      Januar 29 21:22

      It’s actually WordPress, I just chose a particular theme. I will take care of those missing buttons, thanks for telling me about it. 😀

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